劉長安的部落格

你 12 歲時，你會做甚麼；記得 10 多年前魁格˙柯柏格 ( Craig Kielburger ) 起來號召「解放兒童 Free the Children 」運動時，一下子舉世聞名。真不敢想像一個只有 12 歲的兒童，竟有著如此遠大抱負與理想。是我們的教育出了問題，還是我們對我們的小朋友過度的呵護。讀完「我到我們的世代---新一代的快樂人生哲學 Me to We--Finding Meaning in a Material World 」這本書，又激起我莫名的感嘆，也算是一些心得吧！整理如下 :

What would you do at twelve? It was that Craig Kielburger appealed a movement called "Free the Children", I remembered that was revealed about ten years ago, arousing the whole world attention and became eminent fame suddenly. I dare not to imagine how a child, only twelve, owns such an ambitious expectancy and ideal. What's wrong around our education system or just do we cherish our children too much. After finishing read this book, Me to We -- Finding Meaning in a Material World, it occurred to me some kind of inexplicable laments to be figured as what I have learned. I summarize it as follow:

一、生命旅程中的寶藏，也是五種心靈的力量

  1.聆聽的力量：聆聽自己內在的聲音、是打開心中培養洞察力的窗、是釋放心靈潛能的鑰匙、是引導自己面對自己並反省自己的力量。

  2.選擇的力量：亦是轉念的力量，轉化意念成為指導生命的信念，明辨方向豐富自己的人生。

  3.謙卑的力量：連結彼此心靈深處的良善，帶出感恩的真誠祝福，是人間恆久的價值。

  4.主動的力量：行動力的來源。

  5.『共好』的力量：啟動創造性能量的引擎，讓自我心中困境獲得解放而翻轉人生，是自我到全體同蒙其利的精隨。

Treasuries of life journey are also five kinds of spiritual power. 1. The power of listening: Listening to the voice of self-inner heart is the window that opens the power of penetration we cultivated, is the key that release the potential of spirit, is the power that guide you to face yourselfy then to introspect yourself. 2. The power of choice: The power of transferring idea. Transfer idea becoming the faith of guiding life. To distinguish the direction clearly is to enrich our life. 3. The power of humility: Connecting the good-will of inner-heart one another to bring the sincerely blessing with gratitude that is the eternal value of human being. 4. The power of active: The original of deeds power. 5. The power of common-well: The engine of switching creative energy on what liberates the dilemma of egocentric to turn over the life is the marrow of mutual benefit from ego to the whole.

二、應認識自己的能力與長處，奉行每日行善由你的長處開始。

Recognize the abilities and merits of oneself and start to pursue doing charities by means of your merits.

三、從「我」轉化到「我們」，個人四項項重要技能：1、心存感激、2、將心比心、3、重新界定「幸福」的定義、4.、重新界定「社群」的概念。

Transferring ego (me) to we, four important skills of individual include: 1. Act out of gratitude. 2. Put oneself within other's position. 3. Redefine the definition of happiness. 4. Redefine the concept of social group.

四、生命的轉變，有些人是緩慢進行；有些人則是在一瞬之間。

The transformation of life is proceeding slowly among somebody but to someone it changes in a suddenly.

五、美國社會心理學家邁爾斯 (David G. Myers ) 說：「我們擅長謀生，卻拙於活出生命；我們歌頌繁榮，卻渴求生命目的；我們珍惜自由，卻嚮往與他人連結。豐盛的年代，我們的心靈卻倍覺飢渴。」

The psychologist of America , David G. Myers, ever said, We are good at in earning one's living but is clumsy in making life alive. We extol prosperity but eager for purpose of life. We cherish for freedom but yearn for connecting with others' In the time of flourishing but our mind feels thirsty and hungry extremely.

六、較低生活水準的人，竟然比有錢人更快樂，實在說不通；我們的生活水準這麼高，為何不見喜悅滿懷。

It is hard to explain who they are in low living standard own much happier than the rich men. Why do we have high living standard but without having our hearts filled with gratification?

七、金錢不一定帶來快樂，但絕對買不到時間；時間就是大家一樣多，丟掉了再也找不回。埋首追求金錢之餘，犧牲了健康與家人、小孩相處，卻換來了莫大的空虛。富有卻貧乏有何用呢 !

Money maybe can't bring the happiness but it can't buy the time absolutely. Everyone holds the time equally when lost can't be found it back again. After indulging in wooing money, you sacrifice your health and get along with your family and children but have enormous inanity exchanged. Rich-but-poor what for?

八、美國精神科醫師克拉蕭 ( Ralph Crawshaw ) 說：「旅行有助於拓展視野，而這種拓展並非來自旅行者在異地的景象新奇感受、氣味與聲音；而是來自第一手體驗別人如何利用截然不同的生活方式，處理我們認為理所當然的事務。」

The psychiatrist of America, Ralph Crawshaw, ever said, To travel is helpful for broadening own vision and such broadening doesn't come from the feeling of curious scenery, smelling and sounding at foreign boundary gotten by the traveler but adopted from the first-hand experience how they deal with the daily affairs that we take it for grand with entirely different ways of life.

九、與人互動時要謙卑平和，是哲學家老子道的哲學，而當我們聆聽與尊重他人的智慧時，我們會得到最多；透過和平的方式解決問題、避免紛爭，就是在對個人與社會的和諧做出貢獻。因此，我們不能嚴格區分甚麼是有利個人的事，甚麼是有利社會的事；只有同時有利於個人與社會，才是『好事』。

Interaction with anybody should be humility and peaceful that is the philosophy of Dao, Philosopher Lao Ze, when we listen and respect to the wisdom of others', we will get the most. Through the way of peaceful to solve the problem and to avoid the conflict that is making contribution to the harmony of individual and society. We can't distinguish strictly what the affairs benefited for person or for society, only that favorable for both sides simultaneously are good things.

十、亞當史密斯在『道德情操論』中指出，儘管人類傾向於自私自利，卻能從合作互動中確保個人和集體的福祉，並因此得利。自由市場上的競爭和道德上的互助看似兩個極端，實則攜手並進。我們如想變得富裕，不僅是經濟上的富裕，還包括道德上的圓滿富足。

Adam Smith in his book" The Theory of Moral Sentiments" points out, in spite of the human being tend to selfish, we can assure to get the personal and group welfares through cooperative and interaction and harvest the reaps. The competitive of free market and the mutual aids of moral looks seems two extreme sides but they should be proceeding hand by hand. If we want to be rich, not only the richness of economic but also the abundant and well-off of moral included.

十一、能改變世界的人，他們都是平凡人，他們既無浩浩湯湯的救人行動，也無大型的募款活動，更無超人般過人的勇氣。它們只意識到一個問題，然後奉獻出一己之力，利用機會做到「我到我們」的轉變。

The men who can change the world are all normal men. They are without saving life behavior impressively and large-scale recruiting money action mightily, not to mention the exceeding courage of superman. They are only conscious of one problem, then endeavor to tribute his strength and grasp the opportunity to do the transformation from me to we.

十二、美國作家艾默森說 :「如果能誠摯的幫助別人，一定也會幫到自己，這是人生最美麗的回報之一。」

The writer of America , Emerson, ever said, if one man can help other sincerely, he will get the assistance from himself. That is one of the beautiful requites from life.

十三、多倫多大學社會心理學教授多德曼博士 (Dr. Dan Dolderman) 說：「歸屬感的需求會在三個層次釋放。1、感受自我價值，但不覺孤單、2、感受到人與人之間一種深刻的相互關聯、3、社會團體的歸屬感，凸顯自我在團隊或組織中的身分。」

The Social psychologist professor of University of Toronto , Dr. Dan Dolderman said, the demand of belonging feeling will release among three layers: 1. The feeling of self-value but not feel alone. 2. The feeling of interconnecting deepgoing between you and me. 3. The belonging feeling of social group to emerge the dignity of ego specially between groups or organization.

十四、美國改善健康學院 ( Institute of the Advancement of Health ) 路克斯 博士 ( Allan Luks ) 說 : 「助人的過程會產生信賴、快樂與樂觀。這些正面的情緒與態度，同時提升實現某件有價值之事的決心，因此製造出喜悅的片刻與持久的樂觀。」

The Institute of the Advancement of Health of America, Allan Luks told us, the process of helping other people will produce trust, happy and optimistic. All of those positive motions and attitudes will promote the decision of fulfill something valuable and then manufacture a moment of joyful and optimistic everlasting.

十五、年輕人對他人伸出援手，反而幫助自己發展自尊、學習領導技巧並找到人生方向感。參與課外活動、擔任義工，讓年輕人發展領導、團隊工作和溝通等重要技能；讓年輕人學會尊重自己和他人，同時發揮自己真正潛能，由自我懷疑變成自尊、自信，由無動於衷變成果敢行動。

Young men give someone a hand that help themselves developing self-esteem instead and learn the technique of leadership to find the direction of human life. To participating the extracurricular activities, to serve as a volunteer will develop the important skills of leadership, teamwork and communication for young men. Let the young men learn how to respect oneself and other person which will develop the real potential of oneself. It will change self-skeptic of ego into esteem and confidence, then make the aloof and indifferent into action of resolution and courage.

十六、悲劇有一種驅使大家一起面對生命中最重要事情的無形力量。

Tragedy has one kind of invisible power to make everybody to face the most important thing of life together.

十七、助人會同時啟動創造富足的循環；付出會讓人覺得愉悅，而那種心滿意足的感覺，又會再幫助你繼續付出。這種循環和匱乏不同，它會讓個人和團體都向上提升。富足不是只有金錢，行善不是用罄自己的存款；有很多方法表達感恩之心，微笑便是取之盡、用之不竭，而且善念也不會耗盡。

Helping others will active the circulation of creating well-off. Devoting oneself will make us feel joyful, and that kind of feeling satisfaction will help you to devote continuously. This kind of circulation is different from the deficiency that will promote oneself and group upward. Well-off is not only the money and do charities are not drawing your deposit vacancy. There are many ways of expressing the feeling of gratitude such as the smiling is one kind of sources that can't be use up and the will of goodness can't be exhausted.

十八、每個人齊集愛心、勇氣與智慧，帶來富足的正向循環，是治癒匱乏迷思的唯一解藥。

Everyone puts love heart, courage and wisdom together, it can bring positive circulation of abundant. That will be the only antidote to cure the puzzle of deficiency.

十九、不以 " 非人 " 或 " 貶低人 " 的態度去看待受苦的不幸人們，如此我們才不會認為處在不幸遭遇的人，就應該受苦，而認為他們的受苦是自作自受。

Not with the attitude of “unnormal man” or “degrade man” to treat the suffer and misfortune people, then we can think who they run into misfortune should be languished and deemed boomerang of their suffer.

二十、同理心讓我們看到他人時，就想到自己或我們所關心的人一樣；不管你認為同理心是一種憐憫，還是了解別人的感覺而產生共鳴，同理心都是迴避和拒絕接受的反面。當我們用開放的心胸接受同理心，我們就能感受別人的傷痛，也能體會到一股助人的急迫感。

With the same consensus feeling that will make us to think of those whom we are concerned or myself when we see who we are not acquainted. No matter how you think that the same consensus feeling is a kind of sympathy or understand other person’s feeling to generate resonance. The same consensus feeling is the reverse side of refusing and avoidance. When we   open our mind to accept the same consensus feeling, we can feel other’s trauma and realize the some kind of urgent feeling of helping people.

二十一、「解放兒童」組織青年演說家阿帕多斯基 ( Joe Opatowski ) 說：「在他有生之年將不再為自己許願，因為他最終的願望，就是大家都擁有幸福快樂。」

The speaker of the organization of Free Children, Joe Opatowski, said, he will not make a pledge for himself during the period of his limited life because everyone owns the happiness is his last wishes.

二十二、社會運動像馬賽克圖案一樣，由許多色彩鮮豔的小塊磁磚組合而成，也是靠所有參與者各自貢獻所長，才能繁榮茁壯。

Social movements are like the pattern of mosaics that is consisted of by many small pieces of tiles which mean they can be flourishing depends on the participants who devote their merits.

二十三、快樂來自選對目標而非達成目標，人們積極追求的三種目標多半和生活安適有關。1. 是親密 : 希望有緊密且彼此互惠的關係、2. 是性靈上的目標:以道德倫理層面，引導日常生活中高尚的行為、3. 付出奉獻、關懷未來世代。當我們珍惜群己關係，並將我們的目標與最重視的價值連結，快樂就會不求而自得。

The happiness comes from the goals being chosen correctly not from achieving the targets. We, the people, run after three kinds of target positively which relate mostly with the cozy life. 1. The intimacy: Hoping with the intensive and mutual benefit relationship. 2. The target of spiritual: With the layer of ethics and morals to guide our dignity behaviors of daily life. 3. Dedicating the devotion: Concerning the future generation. When we cherish the relationship between you and me and we connect our target with the most respected values, the happiness will appear without searching.